Mentally ill daughter keeps parents at bay

DEAR DR. GOTT: We have a 33-year-old daughter who is mentally ill. She has currently gone off her meds and is hospitalized in a psychiatric ward. She will likely be transported to a state facility. She has refused to sign the paper allowing us to converse with her doctors and caregivers, although we are the only people she has. It is not our desire to control her, but it is our wish to be sure that she is safe and to let those who are caring for her know there is someone out there who still loves her. How can we work with this system that allows her to be her own guardian when she is incapable of even caring for herself?

DEAR READER: This is a serious dilemma. Your daughter is an adult at 33. I don’t know how serious her condition is and how much outside assistance, if any, she requires. [Read more...]

National Healthcare Decisions Day pushes for advance planning

DEAR DR. GOTT: I am a registered nurse. My local hospital has been gearing up for this year’s National Healthcare Decisions Day. This is the second annual and is still very new. I am writing in the hopes that you will print something in your column to help get the word out about this important issue. You can also refer interested individuals to the National Healthcare Decisions Day website at www.NationalHealthcareDecisionsDay.org. Please let all your readers know of the importance of advance directives. Thank you.

DEAR READER: My local hospital is also gearing up for this event (as I imagine many hospitals around the United States are), so consider it done. As you have said, National Healthcare Decisions Day (April 16) is a time to recognize and acknowledge the importance of having advance directives in case of medical emergencies, terminal illness or permanent disability. [Read more...]