DEAR DR. GOTT:
Too often now it is possible to keep an individual existing for years with feeding tubes and breathing machines, whether the patient wants them or not. That’s not my definition of living. Is it for the benefit of the patient or family? No! Life is completely on hold. Is it for the benefit of nursing homes, doctors and hospitals? Oh, Yes. Doctors just stick their heads in my room once a day or week and get paid. By somebody.
When I reach the state of not being able to respond and eat on my own for one week, I want to pull the plug. That is not living but only existing. I see it all around. Don’t allow that to happen to me. I’m 86 years old and have had a good life and lovely family. Let me go.
DEAR READER:
You present a very compelling argument. I personally agree that quality of life is much more important than quantity of life.
With that in mind, I hope you have shared your feelings with your family or the appropriate individuals in charge. A simple Health Care Proxy, Living Will or other document recognized by your state should be in place to protect you and honor your wishes. If you haven’t taken this step, I suggest you do so at once. If you are in a nursing home, you probably already have everything in order.
At 86 you appear to be of sound mind and able to express your true feelings. I hope that means you continue to read, watch the news on television, participate in social events to the best of your ability, and gain pleasure from family and friends. We all must make concessions as we age, myself included. Somehow, while difficult to recognize initially, the changes allow us to look at life through a different perspective and that‘s not all bad. In fact, it’s called maturity.
Fluff up that pillow behind your head, put a smile on your face, and keep the letters coming my way. I like your spunk and straightforward approach.
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